Books Like “Just Tell Me What to Say”

How to talk so kids will listen & listen so kids will talk

Adele Faber, Elaine Mazlish

1980

'A BRILLIANT BOOK' - PHILIPPA PERRY, AUTHOR OF THE BOOK YOU WISH YOUR PARENTS HAD READ ***THE MULTI-MILLION COPY BESTSELLER***

Assertive discipline for parents

Lee Canter

1982

"A proven, step-by-step approach to solving everyday behavior problems"--Cover.

Whole Child, Whole Parent

Polly B. Berends, Polly Berrien Berends

1975

Fostering spiritual growth through practical discipline, Berends relates the central concepts of happiness, honesty, freedom, love, and unity to the everyday concerns of parenting.

P.E.T

Gordon, Thomas, Gordon, Thomas., Thomas Gordon

1970

Provides parents with a method of handling the problems and conflicts that arise while raising children.

Toughlove

Phyllis York

1980

How do you love an “impossible” teenager? “An effective way of uniting parents to square off against the youngsters’ own powerful peer group that endorses drugtaking and rebelliousness.”—Time Thousands of parents are finding new hope in dealing with rebellious teenagers through Toughlove, a self-help program which has grown to over eight hundred groups throughout the United States and Canada in less than six years. Now, for the first time in book form, the founders tell how Toughlove works. “You need Toughlove if you feel helpless and unable to cope with your teenagers’ behavior or if you feel victimized by them, disappointed in yourself as a parent, guilty because you think you have done a rotten job and are frightened bythe potential for violence in yourself and your children. . . . Remember, you have the right to a night’s sleep without where your kid is—or being awakened by a phone call from the police or a hospital or a drunk teenager who’s stranded somewhere.”—Ann Landers

1-2-3 magic

Thomas W. Phelan

1995

America's #1 child discipline book for over 20 years 1-2-3 Magic has helped millions of parents, teachers, and caregivers all over the world establish an effective, appropriate discipline system that helps children listen better and motivate themselves to behave well. Dr. Thomas Phelan is an internationally renowned expert in his field and has broken down the elements of effective parenting into an easy-to-understand program that can work for any family or in a classroom or caregiving scenario. Recommended by parenting experts for over twenty years, 1-2-3 Magic is a cornerstone book in the parenting category that combines timeless advice with fresh, up-to-date anecdotes and content, and is a must-have book for any caregiver hoping to raise happy, healthy, responsible kids.

Your child at play

Marilyn M. Segal

1985

Packed with learning activities, games, poems, and recipes, as well as anecdotes and advice, the eight sections focus on: Individual Differences and Common Threads (distinguishing between real and pretend; concern with fairness; self-awareness) The Questions Children Ask (the physical world; the natural world; the social world) Friends (best friends; controversies and conflicts; sibling play) Active Play (contact and cuddling; physical feats; sports) Creative Play (music; art; crafts; storytelling and jokes) Pretend Play (actor play and dressing up; imaginary playmates; reemergence of pretending) School Play (reading; writing; arithmetic; collecting facts; science) Family (attachment and separation; family continuity; traditions)

Handbook of Parenting

Marc H. Bornstein

1995

This highly anticipated third edition of the Handbook of Parentingbrings together an array of field-leading experts who have worked in different ways toward understanding the many diverse aspects of parenting. Contributors to the Handbooklook to the most recent research and thinking to shed light on topics every parent, professional, and policymaker wonders about. Parenting is a perennially "hot" topic. After all, everyone who has ever lived has been parented, and the vast majority of people become parents themselves. No wonder bookstores house shelves of "how-to" parenting books and magazine racks in pharmacies and airports overflow with periodicals that feature parenting advice. However, almost none of these is evidence-based. The Handbook of Parentingis. Period. Each chapter has been written to be read and absorbed in a single sitting, and includes historical considerations of the topic, a discussion of central issues and theory, a review of classical and modern research, and forecasts of future directions of theory and research. Together, the five volumes in the Handbookcover Children and Parenting, the Biology and Ecology of Parenting, Being and Becoming a Parent, Social Conditions and Applied Parenting, and the Practice of Parenting. Volume 1, Children and Parenting,considers parenthood as a functional status in the life cycle: Parents protect, nurture, and teach their progeny, even if human development is more dynamic than can be determined by parental caregiving alone. Volume 1 of the Handbook of Parentingbegins with chapters concerned with how children influence parenting. Notable are their more obvious characteristics, like child age or developmental stage; but subtler ones, like child gender, physical state, temperament, mental ability, and other individual-differences factors, are also instrumental. The chapters in Part I, on Parenting across the Lifespan, discuss the unique rewards and special demands of parenting children of different ages and stages -

Parent-child relations

Jerry J. Bigner, Clara J. Gerhardt

1979

Now in the Ninth Edition, Jerry Bigner's "Parent-Child Relations," the classic resource for child development professionals and parents themselves, has undergone a thorough revision anchored by the vision of the late Dr. Bigner and executed by new co-author, Clara Gerhardt.Maintaining its fundamental structure and unique approach, the text uses family systems and systemic family development theory as a framework to explore how parent-child relations change in tandem with developmental changes occurring with children, adults, and the wider family system. Thoughtful updates and revisions were done to increase the effectiveness and currency of the text. The text continues to provide strong emphasis on various theoretical and practical models pertaining to parenting. For decades now, this classic text has prepared countless teachers and practitioners by its proven and practical approach, utilizing family systems and systemic family development theory to explore how parent-child relations change in tandem with developmental changes occurring with children, adults, and the wider family system. The most comprehensive and current resource available to students as they prepare for working with parents and families, and for their roles as parents themselves, this best-selling resource carries on the essential message of its originator, Dr. Jerry Bigner, and will continue to nurture future family scholars and practitioners for years to come.

Secrets of the Baby Whisperer

Tracy Hogg, Melinda Blau

2001

A unique program for understanding and communicating effectively with your baby from infant expert Tracy Hogg. The combination of interactive self-questioning and expert, friendly advice will change how you approach parenting, leading to transformative results. 'Miracles are her business' -- Jodie Foster 'The honest truth is that Tracy Hogg has provided me with more insight into the things that matter than anyone else' -- Observer Review 'She achieves what, to hard-pressed parents, seem like miracles' -- Mail on Sunday '...in a different league than all other 'how to manage as a parent' books' -- Daily Mail 'A book that changed our lives' -- ***** Reader review 'This book is amazing' -- ***** Reader review 'Great book, full of easy tips and tricks for new parents. I would highly recommend it!!!!' -- ***** Reader review 'The BEST baby advice book, EVER!!' -- ***** Reader review 'A God Send!' -- ***** Reader review **************************************************************** Tracy Hogg knows babies. She can calm even the most distressed or difficult infant, because she understands their language. Hence, her clients call her 'The Baby Whisperer'. In this remarkable parenting book, Tracy demystifies the magic she has performed with some five thousand babies. She teaches parents how to work out what kind of baby they have, what kind of mother or father they are, and what kind of parenting plan will work best for them. Believing that babies need to become part of the family - rather than dominate it - she has developed a practical programme that works with infants as young as a day old. Full of questionnaires, clearly explained theories and easy-to-follow, practical, expert advice - this book is guaranteed to set you on the path to calm and confident parenting.

The future generation

China Martens

1990

Covering sixteen years, using individual issues as chapters, focusing on personal writing, and retaining the character of a zine that changed over the years - from her daughter's birth to teenagehood and beyond. This is the tenth-anniversary edition including a new afterword by China's grown daughter. The Future Generation remains a timeless resource for parents, caregivers, and those who care about them.

The read-aloud handbook

Jim Trelease, William S. Pollack, Todd Shuster

1982

Since its initial publication in 1979, this highly acclaimed reference has informed parents and teachers across the nation and around the world of the importance of reading aloud to their children. This updated edition features lists of more than 12,000 titles, from picture books to novels, that are great for reading aloud.

Parents and their children

Verdene Ryder, Celia A. Decker, Verdene Ryder CFCS, Celia Anita Decker Ed.D., Celia Anita Decker

1985

Packed with a wealth of activities that help students apply what they learn about children and parenting, the Student Activity Guide encourages practical application of parenting strategies and the use of higher-order thinking skills. Some activities are thought-provoking and encourage students to form their own ideas about information presented in the text.

Toxic Parents

Susan Forward

1988

Are you the child of toxic parents? When you were a child... • Did your parents tell you you were bad or worthless? • Did your parents use physical pain to discipline you? • Did you have to take care of your parents because of their problems? • Were you often frightened of your parents? • Did your parents do anything to you that had to be kept secret? Now that you’re an adult... • Do your parents still treat you as if you were a child? • Do you have intense emotional or physical reactions after spending time with your parents? • Do your parents control you with threats or guilt? Do they manipulate you with money? • Do you feel that no matter what you do, it’s never good enough for your parents? In this remarkable self-help guide, Dr. Susan Forward draws on case histories and the real-life voices of adult children of toxic parents to help you free yourself from the frustrating patterns of your relationship with your parents — and discover a new world of self-confidence, inner strength, and emotional independence.

The family

Jack O. Balswick, Judith K. Balswick

1989

The Family is a resource for college and seminary faculty, pastors, and Christian counselors. Now in its third edition, this study has been revised and updated throughout to include the results of current research and contemporary trends.--From publisher's description.

Das Drama des begabten Kindes und die Suche nach dem wahren Selbst

Alice Miller

1979

The “drama” of the gifted—i.e., sensitive, alert—child consists of his recognition at a very early age of his parents' needs and of his adaptation to those needs. In the process, he learns to repress rather than to acknowledge his own intense feelings because they are unacceptable to his parents. Although it will not always be possible to avoid these “ugly” feelings (anger, indignation, despair, jealousy, fear) in the future, they will split off, and the most vital part of the “true self” (a key phrase in Alice Miller's works) will not be integrated into the personality. This leads to emotional insecurity and loss of self, which are revealed in depression or concealed behind a facade of grandiosity.Alice Miller defines the ideal state of genuine vitality, of free access to the true self and to authentic individual feelings that have their roots in childhood, as “healthy narcissism.” Narcissistic disturbances, on the other hand, represent for her solitary confinement of the true self within the prison of the false self. This is regarded less as an illness than as a tragedy.The examples Alice Miller presents make us aware of the child's unarticulated suffering and of the tragedy of parents who are unavailable to their children—the same parents who, when they were children, were available to fill their parents' needs. In her psychoanalytical work, Dr. Miller found that her patients' ability to experience authentic feelings, especially feelings of sadness, had been for the most part destroyed; it was her task to help her patients try to regain that long-lost capacity for genuine feelings that is the source of natural vitality. Many people who have read her books have discovered within themselves for the first time in their lives the little child they once were. This may explain the unusually strong and deep reactions Alice Miller's books have evoked in so many readers from different countries. The Drama of the Gifted Child and the Search for the True Self is the origina

Building resilience in children and teens

Kenneth R. Ginsburg, Martha M. Jablow

2005

Confronting the overwhelming amount of stress kids face today, this invaluable guide offers coping strategies for facing the combined elements of academic performance, high achievement standards, media messages, peer pressure, and family tension. The handbook acknowledges that adolescents commonly survive stress by either indulging in unhealthy behaviors or giving up completely, and its suggested solutions are aimed at strengthening resilience. The proposed plan enables kids from the age of 18 months to 18 years to build the seven crucial "C's"--Competence, confidence, connection, character, co.

Concerning children

Charlotte Perkins Gilman, Jon A. Lindseth Suffrage Collection, Rationalist Press Association

1900

Charlotte Perkins Gilman's Concerning Children reflects her innovative thinking on the social and economic construction of motherhood. In this volume, she takes on American society at its core principles: the betterment of our society through the development of our children. Gilman attacks our conventional model of child rearing, one based on obedience and discipline, rather than on the development of creativity and individuality. She responds to popular practices such as the corporal punishment of children, and proposes new and radical ways of child-rearing including social motherhood, which frees women to pursue careers. Presciently observing more than a century ago that it takes an entire village to raise a child, Gilman's Concerning Children is a must-read for anyone interested in gender and family studies.