Mothering and Ambivalence

Boundaries with kids

Henry Cloud, John Sims Townsend, Henry O. Arnold

Discover how setting biblical boundaries can improve your parenting and your relationship with your children. Join Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend, authors of the New York Times bestseller Boundaries, as they share the research and guidance you need to raise your kids to take responsibility for their actions and emotions and enable them to lead balanced, productive, and fulfilling adult lives. The tools and guidance provided in Boundaries with Kids will change the way you view healthy boundaries, no matter where you are in your parenting journey. You'll learn how to: Define appropriate boundaries and consequences for your kids. Set limits and still be a loving parent. Bring balance to an out-of-control family life. Understand the six steps to implementing boundaries in your home. Using biblically backed principles, including respect, stewardship, and self-control, Drs. Cloud and Townsend share the lessons they've learned firsthand after decades of working with families across the country. With wisdom and empathy, they take you through the ins and outs of instilling the kind of character in your children that will help them lead Godly lives.

Growing up fast

Bonnie J. Ross Leadbeater, Niobe Way

The first edition of Growing Up Fast attempted to counter the stereotype of poor, minority adolescent mothers and describe the diversity of their educational, work, parenting, and relationship experiences. The volume followed a strengths-based approach to understanding why some mothers appeared resilient to the stresses of early parenting, compared to their peers, and what obstacles undermine resiliency for some of these young women. We hear their stories in their own words. We also see how many disadvantaged mothers go on to succeed in school, work, and parenting while avoiding many of the risk associated with teen parenting . The research is based on a six-year study of 120 young disadvantaged mothers and their children from New York City. It uniquely combines the analysis of longitudinal questionnaire data with qualitative analysis of extensive interviews conducted with these women focusing on the first six years after their child was born. A past winner of the Society for Research on Adolescence best book award, Growing Up Fast is a fascinating study of human resilience that will continue to be recognized for its contribution to individuals involved in program development and policymaking with teenage parenting. A new introductory chapter to the book suggests that we can look at the previous findings through a new lens that emphasizes not only the diversity of outcomes for young mothers and the sources of their strengths, but also asks what we can learn from these women about supporting their educational and work goals, as they transition to adulthood. New attention to emerging adulthood shows that this is a critical stage of life when the foundations for health and healthy life styles are laid down. Developmental tasks of this phase include building the capacity for financial and residential independence through post-secondary education and job training, and establishing stable sources of support from parents, romantic partners, and peers for all youth. Leadbea

Secrets of the Baby Whisperer

Tracy Hogg, Melinda Blau

A unique program for understanding and communicating effectively with your baby from infant expert Tracy Hogg. The combination of interactive self-questioning and expert, friendly advice will change how you approach parenting, leading to transformative results. 'Miracles are her business' -- Jodie Foster 'The honest truth is that Tracy Hogg has provided me with more insight into the things that matter than anyone else' -- Observer Review 'She achieves what, to hard-pressed parents, seem like miracles' -- Mail on Sunday '...in a different league than all other 'how to manage as a parent' books' -- Daily Mail 'A book that changed our lives' -- ***** Reader review 'This book is amazing' -- ***** Reader review 'Great book, full of easy tips and tricks for new parents. I would highly recommend it!!!!' -- ***** Reader review 'The BEST baby advice book, EVER!!' -- ***** Reader review 'A God Send!' -- ***** Reader review **************************************************************** Tracy Hogg knows babies. She can calm even the most distressed or difficult infant, because she understands their language. Hence, her clients call her 'The Baby Whisperer'. In this remarkable parenting book, Tracy demystifies the magic she has performed with some five thousand babies. She teaches parents how to work out what kind of baby they have, what kind of mother or father they are, and what kind of parenting plan will work best for them. Believing that babies need to become part of the family - rather than dominate it - she has developed a practical programme that works with infants as young as a day old. Full of questionnaires, clearly explained theories and easy-to-follow, practical, expert advice - this book is guaranteed to set you on the path to calm and confident parenting.

The future generation

China Martens

Covering sixteen years, using individual issues as chapters, focusing on personal writing, and retaining the character of a zine that changed over the years - from her daughter's birth to teenagehood and beyond. This is the tenth-anniversary edition including a new afterword by China's grown daughter. The Future Generation remains a timeless resource for parents, caregivers, and those who care about them.

A good enough parent

Bruno Bettelheim, Bruno Bettleheim

In this book, the preeminent child psychologist of our time gives us the results of his lifelong effort to determine what is most crucial in successful child-rearing. His purpose is not to give parents preset rules for raising their children, but rather to show them how to develop their own insights so that they will understand their own and their children's behavior in different situations and how to cope with it. Above all, he warns, parents must not indulge their impulse to try to create the child they would like to have, but should instead help each child fully develop into the person he or she would like to be.

The parent survival guide

Theresa Kellam

When parents turn to the parenting/self-help section of their local bookstore, they are looking for both practical guidance and a childrearing philosophy that resonates with them - an approach they can relate to and be comfortable implementing in their own household. In The Parent Survival Guide: From Chaos to Harmony in Ten Weeks or Less, Theresa Kellam presents a way to strengthen the relationship with the child that simultaneously promotes the parent's own emotional healing and wellness. Grounded in a research-supported therapeutic technique that uses structured play time as the catalyst for interpersonal connection and growth, Kellam's model is subtle in its simplicity. Through a series of guided exercises, Kellam gives parents the skills they need to begin to set aside special playtimes with their children, during which the most important part of the process is simply "being there" in a way that promotes healing, growth, and communication. The beauty of this approach is that in only 30 minutes, once a week, the results can be seen in only a few weeks. Features of the book include: "Parent Survival Tip" at the start of each chapter Original cartoon illustrations bring text to life Short but insightful workseet questions bring focus to the program The Parent Survival Guide is structured over a series of 10 chapters, which can be read in conjunction with the 10-sessions of the CPRT workshops for those parents enrolled in a formal filial training program. But the material in the book is designed to be read and implemented by anyone. The author is not only a licensed psychologist and filial therapist, but she has also gone through the program with her own son and continues to rely on its principles within her family.

Seeing young children

Warren R. Bentzen

Seeing Young Children is an extensive guide to observing and recording behavior in children from birth through age eight. It begins by addressing the basic meaning of observation and why it is so important. This includes a discussion of the theoretical and practical aspects of observing and recording behavior. Detailed information on development, behavior and functioning in children in this age group enables parents and professionals to make meaningful observation, recordings, and evaluations. A large portion of the book concentrates on in-depth reviews of recording techniques and instruments, as well as the advantages and disadvantages of each. Finally, the last five chapters offer a wealth of observation exercises readers can immediately put to use. Specific by age group, each of these chapters contains observation objectives, instructions as to procedure, and background information on many functional areas, all aimed at collecting and using quality data to the benefit of children.

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Before It's Too Late: The Parenting Years That Slip Away

Cole Peterson

About showing up, slowing down, and loving your kids in the time you still have.

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Before It's Too Late: Your Life's Legacy

Robert J. Morgan

For people who want what remains to line up with what they meant, not with what they posted.